My favourite line manager and I were both extremely opinionated people, and once every six months or so we'd end up borrowing a conference room and having a straight up shouting match about a set of design decisions where we both had strongly held views on how it should be done.
By the end of the shouting match though we'd pretty much always come up with a third design that was far better than either of the two we'd had in mind going in, and we both regarded it as a matter of passionate advocacy rather than being a personal attack.
However, we were very much temperamentally suited to that dispute resolution approach, and neither of us would have ever attempt to use it with any of our other coworkers because none of them would've found it remotely pleasant.
(to be clear, given the way Chris Lattner seems to have come away from the interaction feeling, somebody absolutely fucked up in this case, but it seemed worth noting that there do exist cases where things are different)
By the end of the shouting match though we'd pretty much always come up with a third design that was far better than either of the two we'd had in mind going in, and we both regarded it as a matter of passionate advocacy rather than being a personal attack.
However, we were very much temperamentally suited to that dispute resolution approach, and neither of us would have ever attempt to use it with any of our other coworkers because none of them would've found it remotely pleasant.
(to be clear, given the way Chris Lattner seems to have come away from the interaction feeling, somebody absolutely fucked up in this case, but it seemed worth noting that there do exist cases where things are different)